I recently read about the concept of “love-languages” which made me further explore the idea that perhaps cats have love languages too. My research gave me some interesting information, not only do cats have more than one way of communicating love, they also have a funny way of trying to copy our form of communication.
So this is a bizarre finding. If you have a cat that frequently meows at you when you speak or while you’re doing tasks, they are purely using this to communicate to you. Cats don’t typically meow; they learned this behavior from us. They learned from us that making a vocal sound would result in another person creating a vocal sound and sometimes getting what they need (generally food). However, some cats don’t make a meow for food. Many cats will meow purely for your response that makes meowing one of the very interesting love languages of cats.
Purring is a little bit of a mystery. It is assumed to be associated with vibration within the vocal cords of your cat but it is a global symbol for complete calm. Although this is more of a passive “love-language” is it a great gauge for you to see how relaxed your cat is in your lap.
This is something often reserved for a trusted member of their colony. Head knocking is a method of your cat to transfer their pheromones onto you, to make other cats aware that you already have a feline companion. Cats will also head-knock when they are want a pat or affection, this is also a learnt behavior just like meowing. Cats are quick to learn that by head knocking they will have a pat and further affection, which is frequently their aim.
Their sleeping position
Cats are known for reserving the sleeping position next to them for their “best-friend” while in their colony. The position of sleeping next to you assumes that you will protect them from any predators who might cause them harm during their vulnerable sleep hours. The actual spreading out or cuddling is generally very weather dependent, but often cats are known to have a point of contact of one part of their body onto their sleep companion at all times.
Bringing you a kill
This is my least favorite love language of cats. In an assumed colony of cats, you share your kill will the others you care about the most. This might be your kittens or your best friend, but if you have a close bond to your cat then this could be you. In the wild, it is a great challenge to catch prey so if they do offer you their sacrifice it is considered (albeit a bit gross) an act of great kindness. However, if this is a frequent occurrence invest in a cat run or a collar with a bell.
Very well domesticated cats are also known for bringing a less intense kill, such as a sock from your laundry or a washcloth too. I would definitely prefer this gift.
Kneading you belly
Aside from aiding your digestion, this funny little quirk is left over from the kitten-era of getting milk from their mother. Cats who are exceptionally relaxed are known to knead their owner’s belly, legs or even a soft blanket. This love language means your cat is in a complete state of relaxation.
So ultimately, there are a range of different “love-languages” you cat might be using to gather your love and affection. Just remember that no two cats are the same and these are all different way to express the same affection you express to them all the time.